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This week: "If you're not TRYING to meet women, are you sure you WANT women to date you? Are you certain of your ATTRACTION QUALITIES to get women interested in you?"

Dear David,
I got your book and I've read it twice. It's helped me to pinpoint areas where I need to improve and basically understand some of why women do what they do. However I have a situation.

Normally, I'm a smart ass, I'm always making smart comments, and a general joker.

The problem is, when I go to a club or a bar, with gorgeous HBs (Hot Babes), my mind goes blank. It's almost like my brain locks and all I can do is look without anything to say.

Needless to say it frustrates the hell outta me.

Any advice?

Should I do some affirmations?

How do I overcome this?

Signed,
Pissed off in DC

David Deangelo >>>MY COMMENTS:

I think your problem is really pretty simple.

You are experiencing something that I have been through a bazillion times. In fact, I think that most guys have been through this cycle at some point in life.

One of the ideas that I teach is "Have one good default thing to do in each common situation".

In other words, it sounds to me like you just haven't taken the time to work out a basic system for yourself that will allow you to meet any woman you come across in one of these situations.

Here's your homework:

Take out a piece of paper right now, and write down your one single favorite way to start a conversation with a woman.

Next, plan out EXACTLY how it should go in your mind.

Next, mentally rehearse this scenario over and over and over until you have it clearly in your mind.

Finally, go out tomorrow night and use this one introduction to meet 10 women.

The next day, sit down again for a few minutes and think about how it worked for you.

Think about ways you could improve your approach, and if you come up with some good innovations, go ahead and do the same process of mentally rehearsing the new ideas until you have them down.

One thing that really makes me laugh is that MOST GUYS SPEND MORE TIME REHEARSING THEIR VOICEMAIL MESSAGE THAN THEY DO REHEARSING SCENARIOS WITH WOMEN.

You need one good, solid, default thing to do in each common situation with women. So pick one, and refine it until your mind no longer goes blank!

***READER COMMENT***

Hey, one of the things I noticed about stupid guys who can't get laid or even a phone number is that they aren't around women enough.

Having your own business, or doing sales makes you realize that you have to let people, or in this case women know about your product, YOU.

I am always amazed by guys who whine they can't meet any chicks and then stay home and masturbate on a Friday night, or even worse drink at some dive bar where there are no women.

This may sound rudimentary but go shopping once in a while, be around them; there are insecure women everywhere for the taking, especially on a Sunday afternoon, if you know what I mean.

David Deangelo >>>MY COMMENTS:

Preach it, my brother.

Sometimes I don't mention the obvious enough.

And I thank you for reminding me and everyone else of one of the basic fundamental truths about being successful with women.

Thanks again!
David D.

To the rest of you readers...

If these two emails ring a bell, if you find some similarity in what these guy's say and your own life, well, it's time to step up to the plate and swing hard... the ball of your life is headed your way... will you hit or miss?

I want you to stay in the game...

You need to check out my program "Deep Inner Game".

This program is just PACKED with tools and techniques for overcoming your inner psychological challenges.

Go check out some great video clips of the program here:
Deep Inner Game DVD/CD info website

Of course, if you'd like to get my best thinking on how to deal with different situations and make a woman feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for you, then you need to read my book "Double Your Dating".

It's full of all my best thinking and ideas about how to attract the kinds of women that you've always wanted.

Just go here.

And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.

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