Understanding Body Language And Attraction For Guys That Need A Starting Point Meeting Women
This Article: Women's body language, Great opening lines, Communicating attraction
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Dude i must say your a genius. I just graduated from high school,
when i was in school i was always shy around girls an didn't know
what to say,you've helped me open up my eyes to what i should of
been doing a long time ago.
Now I've got 2 girls that both want me , an i really dont know how to handle that. Any suggestions????? None of my friends are giving me any good answers. Im sure u have some .
Help me out if u get a chance, u dont gotta publish it in your
emails u send to everyone . I just really wanna know what to do, i
dont want to fu** this up. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
JF in Va.
David D.:
OK, well it doesn't sound like too much of a problem to me. You have
two girls that like you, what's the issue?! You're going to have to
decide if you'd like:
1) A relationship with one of them.
2) To be single and date both of them.
If you want a relationship, then pick the one you like, and go out with her more than once a week. If you DON'T want a relationship right now, then don't see EITHER of them more than about once a week (twice once in awhile is OK, but any more than that and a woman will start to go into relationship mode AUTOMATICALLY). There is no problem with more than one woman liking you, the problem comes if you start being dishonest and not-up-front in your dealings with them. These are great problems to have, really!
***COMMENT***
There is a lot of guys that says:
"I want a woman to like me for "who I am"...
"I don't want to be pretending like I'm someone else..."
"I want to "be myself"... I don't like the idea of pretending to be
someone that I'm not..."
I was the typical Nice-Guy-Wussy-Clingy, but I have read your newsletter and I have downloaded your book six months ago, and in six month I have date more women than in six year, first I didn't believe in being Cocky & Funny, but after trying again and again, I have a lot of success and the best of all is that I FEEL that Cocky & Funny is a part of my personality, I ENJOY a lot being Cocky & Funny, but I'm not only C&F with the girls that I meet, I'm C&F with my brother, sister, my friends and with everyone !!!
Thanks David, for all, It's like a dream , Thanks Again.
Some Day I will shake your hand..
JP from Argentina
David D:
Congratulations. You've figured something out that a lot of guys NEVER get their entire lives...
You've realized that you can actually enjoy yourself, and make Cocky and Funny, as well as the other techniques, a part of your personality. I'm glad things are working out for you, and it would be great to shake your hand one day (no kissing, though).
***QUESTION***
Hello,
I recently downloaded your e-book, and that combined with your email newsletters have helped me land more email addresses/phone #s in the last several months than the rest of my 24 year life combined. I now see some of the stuff I have been doing wrong over the years and some things to do to correct my behavior and attitudes towards women. The cocky/funny attitude definitely works, when used in the right context. I still feel awkward since I'm fairly new at these new "techniques" but I know I am on the right track.
However, I have some challenging questions for you. Getting a phone
number or email address for me obviously hasn't been enough, and
I'll explain why:
When I call a girl's phone number, I often don't get through (yes, I
remember your figure of something like 1 in 3 times on average).
Obviously if I want a date, I'll have to try again later, or leave a message if she has voice mail. That leads me to the first question, should I leave a (cocky/funny) message, or just try again later?
I am afraid that leaving a message for someone I hardly know might make me come off as too desperate (so far I have NEVER gotten a response after leaving a message), but then when I call again and again (within reason, I give it some time between calls, and I won't try more than a couple times in a day) attempting to reach a girl in person, I'm afraid that she might have caller ID and figure out that I kept calling her, which would also make me come across as needy and desperate.
Or, should I just give up, and move on to somebody else, even with the possibility that the girl I tried calling really likes me and simply wasn't there to answer my call?
My second question is an even tougher one.
Over the summer I've emailed about 12 different girls asking for dates. I will provide the text of a typical message in a minute here.
However, I have to date gotten ONE response back (there goes your 60% theory...). I originally thought there must be something wrong with my account, but then I realized my emails get prompt responses from other friends and family members, so I don't think this is the case (only once did I get a "delivery failure" notification). So...what is going on here--am I just having an incredibly bad streak of luck, or am I doing something drastically wrong?
And if the latter, what is it--am I coming off as a wuss, does my email address turn them off, or what? Now, here is what I said in one of my messages (this is a typical example):
(Girl's name),
It was nice meeting you at the meteorology picnic, and welcome to
the department. I'm curious to know what you're taking as an
undergrad, as I came here straight for the graduate program.
I'll have a lot of things to do over the next couple of days, but
let's try and get together later this weekend--and we can have some
fun and get to know each other better.
(My name)
I think that was a pretty good email, although I wonder if maybe I should have asked for her number too...anyway I'll leave it up to you to analyze.
One final question: Should I always get a girl's phone number or email address in the first meeting, if I am sure I will see her again?
For example, at the picnic aforementioned in my email example, I met another cute girl at the end of the evening (she's in my academic department, so I know I'll see her again eventually), but she was leaving, I was already on my way to my car, and my hands were completely full with food.
Thus it would have been totally inconvenient and awkward to stop and write down an email address or phone number. Is it better just to hold off in certain situations like this one?
Anyways...thanks for any help and advice you can give me.
N.
David D:
Well, let's start with the good...
Great job getting more email addresses and numbers lately than in the last 24 YEARS!... lol.
You mention above that you've read my book, but what you've said above leads me to believe that you didn't really pay much attention when you did. I'm not even going to address your issue of calling women, as you should probably be focusing on emailing first.
I guess I'm confused, because you ask for advice about what to do when calling, then you send me a sample EMAIL that to critique. OK, about the email...
Let's start with "It was nice meeting you at the METEOROLOGY picnic,
and welcome to the department..."
What kind of lame opening is this? Then we have "I'm curious to know
what you're taking as an undergrad, as I came straight for the
graduate program..."
Oh, lord help me.
Next we roll into "...let's try to get together later this
weekend--and we can have some fun and get to know each other
better..."
DON'T MAKE ME SLAP MY OWN HEAD, PLEASE.
You sound like you can't decide whether to ask her to be your study partner, become her school counselor, or subtly imply that you're a perv on a mission. No no no.
You want to touch base, keep it light, and get to the next step. No
school stuff, no interview questions, no "fun".
Try this when following up:
"Hey, it was nice meeting you last night… what are you up to this
week? Would you like to join me for a cup of something wonderful and
some stimulating conversation? Talk to me."
...you know, just like it says word-for-word on page 83 of Double
Your Dating.
No interviews, no "fun", no lame questions about what she's doing as an undergrad. OK, I realize that I'm being a little harsh here, and that you're just getting started... lol... but I have to pick on someone! Remember, no boring, average talk. And until you have something that you KNOW works better, use the materials that you paid for in my book!
As your final assignment, keep me posted on how much better women respond to this new, improved follow-up message. (Hint: if you still aren't getting responses, then you're doing something when you meet them to give them the creeps. Think about it, and make some modifications if you have to.)
***QUESTION***
Dear Dating Master
I have written several times but my letters were never published. This time I think I have great material to contribute, which can help in your newsletter (one of them is this little face, women love them even if you insert them in the first e-mail you exchange, right after a c & f comment).
First, my success story. I met a girl on-line on one of those dating sites. I didn't expect anything out of it.
She had told me she was tall and cute, I didn't believe so but actually, she turned out to be very pretty. We went out on a date at night (she proposed it herself thanks to my c & f e-mails), though I told her I thought it was kind of hasty, I accepted. The whole date I kept composure, I set up a relaxed and calm atmosphere, I just sat, laid back and chatted.
The only c & f comment I needed to send in was this one. We were talking about the people we had met on-line. When she asked about my experience, I said I only met a nice girl, pretty and everything, but she was too needy and forward so I had to tell her "let's just be friends".
She told me about hers, she went out with a nerd, a geek who kept her the whole night talking about computers and mathematics.
I told her that "you don't get everyday such a lucky chance to meet such a cute guy like me". Result, in the end of the date she asked me if she could kiss me, now she is my girlfriend and everything is great so far.
The non verbal cocky and funny examples are many. Once, in a disco I saw a stunning blond walking in. She was very poshy and nose-up. As she passed by me (all the attention was obviously focused on her) I had this genius idea. I followed her imitating her wiggling hips and I squeezed my nose (up) with two fingers (as if to say everybody stinks here, except for me).
As a result, everybody around us noticed the slapstick comedy scene and was laughing out loud, even her when she caught me.
Another example is still in a disco scene.
I was enjoying my beer with my friends sitting on a table. On the other end of the place there were these two beauties, they were all the time surrounded by losers and sharks.
Another idea flashed in my mind, as our eyes met, I show her my tongue and I gave her a raspberry. Her expression went from surprise (I can't believe you just did that) to smile and then she cracked up in laughter. I kept this up with other strange gestures, like shaking my head as if to say "you're no good", then with other gestures I told her she was a drunkard.
Needless to say, I went way further than everybody else. Another gesture you can add after you got her attention, is to raise your eyebrows.
This approach is very good from far away cause you can keep it up for a few minutes without even uttering a word, without approaching her directly walking towards her.
You don't even have to worry about the loud music. Another gesture you can do is shaking your hand with your fingers held together (a very Italian gesture), as if to say "what do you want from me?". And yes, it is a very good idea to imitate and tease them when they dance. It is so nice and fun to tease them, and they love it too.
My question is this one. I noticed that my girlfriend, when I come out with a cocky and funny statement, still laughs and enjoys it, but at the same time she gets frustrated and tells me to stop it as if she doesn't like it. What does this mean? I keep it up anyhow.
I would like to address also the issue of body language. There are
loads of girls who are too shy to look at you straight in the eye.
They give you only a side-look. I advise to keep a friend around you
so that you can catch these shy birds as well. Message to everyone,
get a book about body language, it can save your self-esteem and a
lot of time too!
Thanks again, I still have a lot of issues to address but I realize
I am making this letter too long.
Thanks again man, keep up the good work
F from Italy
David D:
Very nice, I'm glad you wrote in, because I was just working on some
"non-verbal" ways of being cocky and funny, and you have figured
some of them out yourself.
NICE!
One great technique you mentioned is IMITATING a woman who is obviously very hot and/or stuck up. You can pull your shoulders back, stick out your butt, and put your nose in the air... then look over at her... then laugh at yourself. If a woman gives you a compliment, you can purse your lips and put on an exaggerated "James Bond" Mr. Cool look and say "she wants me" right to her face.
There are a million ways... great stuff. To answer your question, I think it's a good idea to always keep doing what worked in the beginning. If a woman was attracted to you because you were Cocky and Funny, then keep doing it later as well. If she puts up a fuss, just say "I'm glad you like it." The best way to keep a woman's interest is do KEEP DOING WHAT WORKED IN THE FIRST PLACE.
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