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Using Cocky Opening Lines

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Dear David,
I'm still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you're tips on my wife. Thanks a million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in your newsletters about guys wanting to know how to start, then keep a conversation going with women.

I work for a major oil company and have been through many of their training courses on dealing with people. One particularly interesting course was on "Information Seeking".

For this we first practiced picking up on "Key words or phrases". For instance, I'll try and give an example using your 'cocky and funny' technique even though you wouldn't use this professionally on the job.

Let's say you see this great looking chick on the street and you tell her:

"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?"

She says, "You're mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store."

Key Words: Old Navy.

"Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?"

"No silly. You know, the big store over at the mall."

Key word: Mall.

"Oh, so you like going to the mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?"

"My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have you know!"

Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and "dress is popular".

"Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain clothing business..."

I know, this is a simple example but the lessons are this:
1) You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words or phrases from what the person says.
2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there next response.
3) You add a little something new into the conversation repeating their words you're using as key words or phrases. This tells them you're listening, even though you're turning things around to be in a cocky comedy format in this situation.

Once at the training course we learned to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes, the company actually hired total strangers from a job soliciting company to come and be our subjects.

While being videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important note: If a person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn't have mentioned it if they didn't want to talk about it. These are great conversation topics to key in on.

My subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total jerk. I keyed in on this and it's amazing what a total stranger will tell you once you build a little rapport. It does take a little practice. This is just one example of how you can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to you're readers.
BF, Texas

David DeAngelo Replies:
Awesome.
This is an excellent description of how to keep a conversation going, keep it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about anything and have it be fun. You should read it again.

Now let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this, and tell you how I use this technique personally.

When I'm having a conversation with a woman, I'm not just listening for any key word, I'm listening for a particular kind of key word (or words).

I'm always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted, turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (double-meaning words) in one of a few particular ways, namely in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

For instance, in your example above you suggested the following:

"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?" She says, " You're mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big store over at the mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you like going to the mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and "dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain clothing business..."

Good. Nice one.

Now, let's dial it up a little bit:
She says "No, I bought this from the Old Navy store..."

Instead of just keying into "Navy" and saying "Oh, so you're in the navy, huh?", why not take it to the next step and actually make fun of her using some comedy words you can twist and play around with in the conversation.

"Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago... in the OLD Navy?"

Now you're busting on her as well, and it's funny.

She says "No silly. you know, the big store over at the mall."

You might try "What kind of mall are YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?"

Again cocky, but you're hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird places.

She says "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have you know!"

You could go with "Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one? Do they all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to get along VERY well." Are you with me here?

What I'm doing is not only looking for key words to latch onto, but I'm also looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various kinds of "racy" topics.

When done in a funny way, it's magic.

Once upon a time, a guy I know very well went into a nightclub and this is what happened:
He was talking to a girl at that club for awhile, when she said "Well, I'm getting tired. I think it's time for me to go home."
The guy answered "Go home?! I just met you. I'm not going home with you!"
She said "No, I mean I'M going home. I'm tired."

He shot back "Maybe you don't hear me. I'm not going home with you, so don't even ask anymore."

She said "No, that's not what I'm saying..."

He replied "And besides, I'm sure my place is nicer than yours, so if anything, you're coming home with me."

This went on and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it, she went home with him.

I saw it happen with my own two eyes.

Another off-the-wall cocky (but pretty funny) example of this, is a story that a good friend of mine told me about one of his friends.

His friend was talking to a girl at a club, and she was talking about what kinds of things she enjoyed doing with her spare time.

She said "...I like to go clubbing..."

He came back with "Oh, like baby seals?"

lol... Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it's damn funny. Love it.

This technique is great for keeping a conversation fresh, fun, unpredictable, and funny (if you know how to do it just right).

Use it.
And you need to be ready to start your cocky comedy lines naturally which means that you need be able to make your words work for you; to be able to really see what a woman is wearing, how she is acting, what she is doing and the environment you're sharing with her and place these things into a comedic situation that makes her open to talking with you, not upsetting her and coming off as a total loser/jerk.

Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that, so I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date, all the way up until we get physical and beyond..."

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David D.