This Article:
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Attracting conversations
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Handling pregnant silences
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Avoiding wussbag topics
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This article: The real benefit of talking to women about topics that
really interest them is that you can use their responses to keep the
conversation going while you learn about them!
*** Secrets Revealed ***
There are really
two very different (and important) aspects to the "conversations
with women" topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.
THE HOW
Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women. It only
makes sense that you should talk about things that women are
interested in... right? Well... partially.
It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic
you're talking about in the RIGHT WAY. In other words, if you don't
understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION,
then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about... because the woman
you're talking to won't FEEL anything towards you.
The HOW of conversation includes (but is not limited to):
-Your body language
-Eye contact
-The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
-Flirting
-Sending mixed messages
-Directing the conversation
-Dealing with common questions and topics
...and many other things.
My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable
silences", nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you
probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.
THE WHAT
With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss
with women. But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do
yourself a favor and THINK for a minute. What topics do women PAY to
hear about? Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas,
nighttime dramas, the fashion channel... etc.
If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather
obvious.
For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
-Drama
-Conflict
-Romance
-Famous people and their lives
So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman
about these topics.
Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars. Talk about how someone
famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
For instance... right now, Michael Jackson is something like two
hundred million dollars in debt. Even though he makes about twenty
million dollars a year, he somehow manages to blow it all and then
some. He has spent an unimaginable amount of time and money on
plastic surgery and skin bleaching... and he reportedly just spent
around seven hundred grand digitally darkening his skin tone in a
recent video.
This situation is all kinds of BEGGING to be picked apart with a
fine-toothed critical mind.
It's also PREGNANT with humor opportunities.
2. Find an interesting-looking group of people and guess what's
going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks
like they're on their first date. Then start making fun of how the
guy is acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk
about how the woman is thinking that he's a dork and how he's not
getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun,
and women love it.
3. Make fun of someone famous. Talk about how a super model is too
skinny, or how Ozzy has killed all his brain cells and what a shame
it is that he's on TV broadcasting it to millions of viewers. Make
fun of Mariah Carey for gaining weight, being put in the loony bin,
and putting out a sucky movie. All you have to do is read a few
gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.
It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk like you're all
that.
4. Talk about other people's love lives. Talk about the problems
that others are going through when it comes to love and romance,
then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because
she gained weight, then after you've told the story, make up a
random theory about how women who gain weight are actually lesbians.
But make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.
...I think you can "feel me".
The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to
certain topics... so USE THEM.
The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really
interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE
LEARNING while you're talking!
You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on... as
long as you know what else to do as you talk.
Oh, by the way...
Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess,
computers, comic books, Star Wars, monster trucks, and NSYNC. NEVER
talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics
that make you look like the biggest loser alive in the beginning.
You'll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you've
created INSTANTLY disappear. Others to really avoid include talking
negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or
how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she likes
you or if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG topic that
makes you look insecure and needy.
Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful
emotional ATTRACTION between you and her.
If you don't know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to
help you very much.
If
you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost
ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.
And if you'd like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a
good set of tools to use for meeting and dating women, then go
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...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
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