How To Know If She's Interested When You First Meet Her
This Article: "It was nice talking to you" strategy, The magic cocky and funny formula, Who's reality are you in?
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave! I used your email close twice now and it worked like magic both times: once with a statuesque black woman, the other with a cute Asian. Yeah!
One was in a bookstore, the other in a cafe: I chatted for five
minutes, started leaving, then asked for email. But what do I at a
party where I'm likely to stay for at least an hour? Pretend to
leave, get email, then stay!? What's the strategy here?
C.
David D:
Isn't it amazing how easy it is to get an email address from a woman you've just met? I didn't believe it myself at first...
Well, it sounds like you have quite the diverse taste in women...
glad to hear that my techniques cross all racial and cultural
boundaries.
If you're at a party, the strategy is:
"Well, it was nice talking to you... I'm going to get back to my
friends... [turn away]... Hey, do you have email?"
Then get her email and go back to your friends. If she starts up a conversation again with you, you now have all kinds of options. Think about it. And if you or she leaves early, you can still contact her later. Nice.
***QUESTION***
"Hi,
I bought your book and its been money well spent as far as I'm concerned. The email/phone approach works like magic; I have never, ever gotten a phone number in a bar before, and now I can! Also the "are you touching me" line you mention in your book is a real winner. And all the general advice about body language, attitude, its all working.
So now I'm wondering if you can provide some advanced know-how. The sort of girls I like are the blonde, high-maintenance "Los Angeles" looking babes, and they seem to be the hardest for me to succeed with. Any suggestions on what I should be doing to attract them? What look I need to have, methods of approach, things to say, whatever...
(To explain where I'm coming from, I'm tall (6'2"), thin but cut, average looking, run my own business and make good money. I try to be both funny and arrogant but am usually more funny than arrogant. My style is goatee, black turtleneck, khakis, black loafers.)
Thanks in advance for any extra tips you can provide!
A."
David D:
Lease a Mercedes 500SL, get a big gold chain, pretend to be a big-time producer, and make references to your "connection".
The problem with the type of woman that you're describing is that WOMEN DON'T ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE THIS IN REAL LIFE. EVERY ONE OF THESE WOMEN IS TRYING TO COMPENSATE FOR SOMETHING! And it's usually something like, oh, self esteem, insecurity, lack of attention from a father figure, a neurotic need for approval... you get the picture. If you want a fake woman, then be a fake man.
Your other option, of course, is to TURN UP THE MAGIC COCKY+FUNNY FORMULA TO THE MAX. You're going to have to see her fake beauty and raise her an arrogant attitude unseen since Ali.
Try it. If it isn't working, turn it up. You're probably asking for trouble, but since you asked...
***QUESTION***
"Hi Dave,
Great book! It certainly makes much more sense to bypass those "dating rules" that women seem always play and make your own rules instead.
I do need your opinion here: I'm successful, intelligent, cocky/funny (bordering on a**hole/arrogant at times), not bad looking, and in good shape. However, I'm Asian/American and shorter than the average white male. On the internet, I've had many comments how great I seem until they learn that I'm Asian-- then I don't hear from them again. In person, it's a slightly different story because I can use funny/cocky, which gives me better responses.
I know that Asian American males have always had huge gripes about white women and even women of their own race who will NOT date them because of the stereotypical (nerdy, needy, backwards, or arrogant, bad to women, philanderers... list goes on) AA males that are always portrayed on TV and movies. And also, you just hardly ever see AA males with white women (especially in the white suburbia where I happen to live).
Do you have any special advice here? Any personality traits we should emphasize? Have you seen AA males be successful using these techniques and what have you observed?
Thanks,
J."
David D:
I have an Asian friend who's probably about 5' 5" tall, and he's ALWAYS surrounded by young women. And I mean surrounded. Like 5 or 6 at a time. There are biases everywhere, in all cultures... if you buy into them, then they apply to you. If you don't then they don't.
Who's reality do you live in anyway? Yours? Or hers?
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