***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I'd first like to say that it sounds like your whole game is on point and some day I'd like mine to be like that. But anyway's, I try to follow your tips as much as I can and it has worked but I'm really interested in this one girl that I met. I call her every other day or something and every time I call her it seems like she is thrilled to hear from me and we talked for a while, I go see her at work and she seems happy to see me. Here's the problem for me, she rarely ever calls me, we've talked for three months and we haven't went out on a date. She's never said stop calling me or we never will go on a date, she just leaves the idea open. I don't know if she leading me on, playing hard to get or what, but i keep trying because the anticipation to go on a date is a turn-on. i just need your expert advice...

J-Las Vegas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, I've got your expert advice right here...

MOVE ON.

If you'd like to MARRY this particular girl, then keep doing what you're doing... and you probably have a 1 in 50 chance of getting her to marry you. But if not, then move on, because you're doing all the WRONG things, man. As a RULE, women play hard to get. You can just assume that she's doing it without even asking.

But the worse part of this situation is that you don't understand what's going on. It's clear to me that you do not understand how ATTRACTION works, and you haven't the slightest idea how to create it. Save yourself another three months. Get a copy of my eBook. And stay tuned in to these newsletters. If you don't, you're going to wind up VERY frustrated in the end.

You must change the way you THINK about this situation. No "magic technique" will help you.
Step 1: Stop calling her.
Step 2: Start dating other women.
Step 3: Make sure she knows that you're dating other women.
Step 4: Continue to move on with your life.

Ironically, this sequence will create your very best chances of eventually getting a date with this particular woman. It's still a SLIM chance, but if you're serious, then this is the way to do it.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Let me start by telling you, you da man! I really got to hand it to you, your stuff has given me confidence Ive never had before, and Im just trying to absorb as much of it into my head as possible. I really want to thank you for being able to share this stuff with guys like me and not keeping it to yourself.

There's just one thing wrong with your material: its way TOO CHEAP!!! Seriously Dave, I think WE'RE ripping YOU off! Thanks to you, I started to apply the Cocky and Funny in chatting rooms and in the real world, and it is a hell of a lot better than the Mr. Nice guy act. However, I use emails and chat to practice my Cocky and Funny and it is improving. For example, I have one trick I use and it works on a girl whether she's younger, older, or the same age as me.

I asked one girl her age, and she turned out to be as old as me, 21. I then replied by telling her "ahh forget it, your too young for me" I assume that this girl wasnt used to a rejection like this and she was intent on knowing how old I was. I told her that I was also 21, and she reacted like most girls do at this part, by laughing and turning into a stuck up and asking me how she could possibly be too young for me. I then respond saying something like "I guess your right, its not your age, you just wouldn't be able to handle me," then she reacts like most girls do at this point, continuing to be even more stuck up and laugh sarcastically, while I tell her that Ill give her a chance because she wants it so much, and she has 2 minutes to convince me she can handle me. Now this is a great conversation starter, and while she argues the fact that she can handle me, I occasionally send her teasing comments like, "honey, your wasting my time" or "Why are u not entertaining me" or "ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzz". I kind of understood how being Cocky works, and if the girl really meant the insults she said to me at first, she still wouldn't be talking to me, right? After doing this to one particular girl, who turned out to be hot as hell from a pic she sent me, she completely forgot about being stuck up and told me "ok, Im sorry, lets start over" this is when I realized I had her in my grasp and I continued being Cocky but turned it down a notch, was this the right thing to do? Around the end I asked her for her email and she replied by telling me she cancelled it yesterday, a terrible excuse. I persisted and said "yeah sure, just type it down,it'll be ok." she stuck to her story and I gave up and gave her my email which she "supposedly" wrote down. Now I know I probably shouldn't of backed down on her email, but I thought the conversation was going so great she would actually want me to have her email. Is there something I did wrong for her to refuse giving it to me, and what other ways could I make a girl give me her phone # and/or email? Also, you stress how you should never answer a girls question directly, to leave her unsure. This happens to be my weakness and I would appreciate a few tips on this too.

Thanks for everything Dave, your reply would really mean a lot.
W.C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great story... and great job. One thing you have to remember about chat rooms and online IM sessions is that they're great PRACTICE. Now, I've met some UNBELIEVABLE women on the internet... so don't get me wrong here.

But don't worry too much about any particular girl... or any particular situation. She could have had a boyfriend, or even a husband... and was just online because she was bored... or any of 100 other scenarios. When something like this happens, just move on.

The point is that you're using the internet for a GREAT "practice environment", and you're training your mind to be Cocky & Funny in the moment... which begins to translate into the REAL world as you do it. To answer your question about how to get a girl to give you her email address and/or number, just do more of what you're already doing...

Keep throwing down the challenges...
Write back and say "Yea, you're probably not that adventurous".
She'll say "Yes I am!".

Then say "Well, if you were then you would have asked me for my number and called me already. But you're not. So you didn't...". Keep this up until she asks for YOUR number. Then, as soon as you hit the "send" button, IM her again quickly to say "I don't hear my
phone ringing! Hurry up!". You'll love the results you get from this kind of thing. But be careful. And get LOTS of CURRENT pictures. Take it from someone who knows... lol... don't just take her word for it.

***SUCCESS STORY FROM A WOMAN***

David,

I read your newsletters and I am a girl. I am skeptical to buy your ebook, only because I am not yet ready to admit to myself that I am in such dire need of dating help even though I am an attractive woman. Last week, I had a little get together at my house with a few friends (of the opposite sex). It was no problem getting them there since I already knew them and I'm sure they came for the free drinks. It was when they got there that at first I wasn't quite sure what we were going to do. So we were just sitting in my loft and talking and drinking some beer when one of them asked me for a massage. So, I said if you give me a massage first. This worked and I got my massage. While I was being massaged, I said HARDER!! Put some effort into it! Come on your are teasing me! The other one was just sitting there watching this all go down. So after he was done, I switched and gave the massage. I used my elbow and really really got into it...and I said "this is the way its done" and after that, when it was his turn, it was great. They were sooo turned on by it, that he just didn't want to stop and he didn't even want one back. He kept telling the other guy behind me how much of an animal I was and bla bla. I just kept laughing because he had no idea I was using your techniques on him, and it was working. This is from an EXTREMELY COCKY guy who normally has the girls on HIM giving HIM the massages. SO, thanks to your newsletters I have a harness on this guy. He is just my practice though! I wouldn't go for a guy like him because in my eyes, I'm way out of his league! He's attractive, but since he fell for it, he's a dud! It works for both guys and girls Dave. Keep up the good work and I hope you liked my little example turning things around for once!

I would love to buy your ebook when i get some extra money. Thanks for all of your helpfulfree tips!!!
L, in Orlando

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, this might be a problem. I mean, women taking this stuff and using it on us guys? Well, I guess it isn't all bad...

I actually enjoy women who use this stuff more than boring, unimaginative women who just like to stand around and look good.

lol...

In fact, one of the most interesting, fun, and intense experiences a guy can have is running into a woman like yourself, and having to deal with the challenge of not knowing where he stands...

I guess the bar is going up. Thanks for your email. By the way, send pictures next time.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

You DVD program has made me get up from the sofa and do something about my love life. No real success yet but I can now see beyond my fears and actually approach women.

As you recommended I started using the Internet as A 'women simulator', it's great and I think I'm doing fine with the cocky and funny stuff. For example, I call my self "too witty for you" and in my description I write "don't please don't... well OK - are you cute?" and it works :-) Sadly, I can't give example from the chats since they are in Hebrew but you know... it's even funnier in Hebrew.

My question is simple: you said to move quickly from the chat to the phone. Well, do you have a "3 minute phone technique" adopted for the chats? (the problem is that I can't say something like "I going back to my friends" like I do in a bar).

Thanks,
U.W. from Israel.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice!

Maybe you can work with me soon on the "Ultimate Comprehensive Guide To Cocky & Funny Online Chat In Hebrew". I answered this question above, but loved your email so I had to include it. When you're online, you have to REALLY go the extra mile and EXXXXXAGGGGERATE everything.

You can't just say "You seem cool, let's talk sometime". You have to say "You're a pain. I'll bet you can't keep this up live on a telephone. You're probably too much of a scardey-cat to even TRY it...". Work it. Try things. You'll find that these kinds of challenges work VERY well online.

***QUESTION***

I'm only 18 and even look young for my age, I got into this newsletter while researching about attraction for a college level course I was taking in High school. I've found out about pheromones, facial and body symmetry, gestures, colors etc... You're newsletters surprised me the most. It makes sense to me just reading what you have to say, realizing that the things you "need to do" aren't seemingly nice or logical, but they work. Before your newsletters, I thought that I looked too young or something negative about myself.

But recently, I've had amazing "luck" with girls because of the things I've learned from you. I had been introduced to a very attractive girl from out of town a few days ago and have been trying some of your techniques. I've made eye contact and waited for her to look away first, been C & F, teased with sexual contact leaving her dumbfounded and wanting me more etc. etc. All I can say is that it's amazing how your strategies work, like learning how to ride a bike. This girl just left back to her home town and is calling me non stop almost every day. Unfortunately, I can't get to the part where I can buy your book, the window just closes. I'd love to read it for more information but if it's possible, could you just send out more examples of great things you've done so that I'll have more examples of different situations? I loved the ones you've used of waitresses or at bars, but what about other places, other conversations that might trigger different C & F comments? Thanks again!

I-Colorado.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, if you ever have any kind of trouble ordering something from me, or problems with the website, just shoot an email to either questions or support @doubleyourdating.com

One thing I've found out in the last couple of years is that the internet is FAR from perfect. There are all kinds of strange issues that come up online, and most of them are little technical things that can be fixed easily. So shoot in an email if you ever need help.

To answer your question, I think you should take some time yourself and think through various situations...
Take out a piece of paper, and write "Bookstore" at the top.
Then list 3 different situations:
1) She's reading a magazine
2) She's in the romance section.
3) She's in line at the counter.
Then, under each one, come up with 10 different possible comments you could make. If you take some time and THINK about it, you'll come up with all kinds of great stuff. Keep reading these mailbags, you'll get some killer ideas as well.

***QUESTION***

David,

I've enjoyed your newsletter and have just ordered the DVDs. In reading the emails, I've thought about what you say in the context of a relationship I had that ended fairly recently. Sure enough, in the beginning, I teased and flirted and she ate it up. Then she had an injury, and I became the caring mate and lost my edge with her, I suppose. Well, as you can guess, as she recovered, she dumped me. I wasn't counting on her as being "the one," but she was hot, and I would have preferred to have it end a little more on my terms.

Here's my question: Any suggestions on how to make her second-guess her decision. I don't really have much "natural" contact with her anymore. I don't want her back -- I'll be too busy trying my new skills out on other women -- but there would be great satisfaction in knowing that she was having second thoughts.

I look forward to going through the course, not just for the help with women, but it sounds like there will be other benefits as well. Thanks.
S in NY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I have some bad news...

The first part of the bad news is that I'm not going to answer your question. The second part of the bad news is that I'm going to use your email to make fun of you. The reason I'm not going to answer your question is that you're BETTER than this. It's WEAK to want to make someone else feel bad or second-guess themselves.

There's no good reason for it... and it only demonstrates that you're weak on the INSIDE. The reason I'm making fun of you is because it's a good way of dealing with the reality of...

EVERY GUY DEALS WITH THIS.

For whatever reason, we humans are a little crazy. We do things and want things that make no sense. What the hell does it matter if she second-guesses her decision to leave you? I mean, you don't talk to her anymore, and she's moving on with her life.

Just move on.

Spend the time that you would have wasted making her feel bad on IMPROVING YOURSELF. And START with this petty need to have the upper hand with someone who's not even a part of your life. Look, we've all been there. Just move on. Like I said, you're BETTER THAN THAT. This is the weak side of you. Focus on developing strength, so you don't have a need to do this sort of thing.

***QUESTION***

David,

I ordered your Advanced CD series as part of the three month offer, and I must say that it has some really good stuff in it. The part about never answering a direct question is awesome. My birthday was yesterday, and a couple girls came over with my roommate's girlfriend. One of them asked me how old I was, so I got a shocked look on my face and asked, "How much do you weigh?" All the girls busted out laughing and wouldn't leave me alone the rest of the night. They asked my brother how old he was (we're twins), and he just said "Same age as him." Phenomenal stuff.

Anyway, on to my question. One of the girls that was there, the one that asked me how old I was the first time, is really shy. I've met her three or four other times, but I realized after last night that I know almost nothing about her because she rarely talks unless I directly ask her something. Like last night, when it felt like the party was starting to wind down and get boring, I decreed that everyone had to tell one funny story, and I led off with a story about how I hit another car the first time I took my driver's test. We were all having a bunch of fun, but when it got to be her turn to share a story, she said she didn't have any good stories. She's a cute girl, but it's a turn off that she never takes the initiative. My roommate says that she's really cool, she just doesn't feel comfortable around people she doesn't know. So my question is, are girls like this worth the trouble of breaking through their shell? If so, how do you get past their shyness? I've used the cocky and funny, and my personal trick of story telling, but she doesn't seem to respond back. And I really hate when I share some good stories and get nothing back in return.
Thanks,
A

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, GREAT comeback to "How old are you?". Very nice. By answering "How much do you weigh?" you said ALL the right things.

This is Cocky & Funny at its best.

Now on to your question...

Here's the deal. Humans LOVE a challenge. It's always amazing to me how a person will pass up something easy for something that's a major challenge...

In your case, you obviously have quite a few options in your life in the female department, but you choose to focus on the shy one who
doesn't respond to you. What's with that?

Remember, some women just aren't interesting on the inside. Some are too shy. Some are hurt. Some aren't emotionally available. Some hate men. Some are gay (YES!). Some aren't (NO!). Keep your options open. If she doesn't respond, move on. Don't make it your personal challenge to take an uninteresting woman and make her interesting. It's her issue, not yours. Go find an interesting woman!

***QUESTION***

Your ebook is great. I went on a second date the other day and I used the "is she ready for a kiss where you stroke her hair first" technique and it worked like a charm. She actually kissed me. I may have skipped over this part of the book on accident but anyways, is there a way to know if a woman has a boyfriend or not? Thanks.
D.B.
Tucson, AZ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great job! You know, with all the emails, success stories, and questions I get, I still enjoy the simple ones the most. When a guy writes in because he just got his first number from a girl, or his first kiss, those are the ones that make me the most excited. If you want to know if a girl has a boyfriend, the first thing to notice is whether or not she's open to flirting with you. Girls who are "taken" and "happily taken" at that are usually less flirtatious than women who are "available".

Now, this is a generalization, and there are a lot of exceptions. But if you ask a woman for her number, and she gives it to you, then goes out with you, then kisses you, then she's probably single. If you REALLY want to know, just ask. I like to look a woman directly in the eye when I'm first talking to her and say...
"Are you single?"

It's great. Most women don't expect it AT ALL in the beginning, and it says all the right things. Most guys say things like "You probably have a boyfriend, huh?". This is WUSSY TALK. It's the same thing that the last 100 guys have said to her, and it's lame. When you look a woman directly in the eye and ask "Are you single?" it communicates strength. Then you can go into the 3 minute email/number technique and get her information.

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